Friday morning was a mad dash. I was off to two different offsite meetings before heading back to work. At almost mid-day was when I looked up my twitter feed. In that moment, I felt like my heart skipped a beat. It read “Anthony Bourdain was found dead by suicide”. I didn’t really understand what it meant; I had just watched the last episode of Parts Unknown on sunday so he was still pretty fresh in my mind. This week was awful for the entertainment industry, first Kate Spade and now Anthony. I was puzzled, sad, wondering, afraid, questioning all at the same time. Lets take a walk back to how he became a friend – in my mind.
An Authentic Human Being
Anthony Bourdain was a real and authentic human being. He had money, success, fame but he knew those things did not exempt him from life – the daily struggles of anyone alive on this planet. He was who he was and he wasn’t ashamed of it. His love of travel and of food took him all over the globe. He was curious about cultures different from his, intrigued about how people lived, their values and the things that set them apart from other groups. There had to be more to a person or groups of people and Bourdain understood that.
There was a humility about him; he was willing to travel to remote parts of the world to sit with total strangers, share a meal and just listen. He gave others a chance to paint their own pictures, an opportunity to tell their own story – not the scripts written by people outside their experience. He ate any where from the best restaurants in world to eating on street corners and in back alleys; on many occasions trying things from menu’s that some of us wouldn’t touch with a ten foot pole. This part of him I could so relate to because I have gotten sick so many times from tasting and trying different cuisines in the past that I made up my mind to live vicariously by watching Parts Unknown and the Travel Channel.
He had things that he struggled with, that was no secret. It was said that he ran from his demons but not fast enough. Could it be that if he had taken time to acknowledge the things he was struggling with instead of painting a different picture to the world, he might still be here. I remember his last visit to a remote village in Asia where he made an eerie comment saying ‘it would be the last time he would be back there’, – I cannot help but wonder if he already knew what he was going to do. So sad, sad indeed.
We can’t keep losing people like this. Something as simple as talking to someone else can go a long way to being free. Diet, exercise and a healthy lifestyle coupled with rest help re-center and refresh the body. Being in close contact with family, friends and loved ones keep us emotionally balanced. Mental illness is no respecter of persons. An icon was lost and we pray for peace for his family at this time.
Hello Y’all! I hope your weekend has been fun aside from the cold front we have coming our way here in North Texas. 😑 New York Fashion Week is here and the frenzy and excitement accompanied with this years show is on!! So far, the trend with some designers this year has been focused on bags and there’s been some interesting pieces I’ve see so far; some of which I will share below…so excited!!😁😎
So we recently had the 2018 Grammy’s which was fun for those who watched it from the beginning till the end. I watched the performances of some of the stars I felt would make it worth my time and Bruno Mars was one of them. I couldn’t help but notice the blatant 80’s theme in that performance. Everything from the garb, dance moves, video-graphy and accessories screamed 1980’s. It almost felt like I was in a time capsule all of a sudden and I could hear that annoying voice saying ‘I’m taking you back…way back’! 😐
Now….In My Mind
The 80’s was P-E-R-F-E-C-T in its own way; we do not need to recreate it. All the color riot/patch patterns that we called clothing back then coupled with those huge clanky earrings (that still surprise me till this day that people ‘still’ had ear holes) and outlandish accessories that scream ‘LOOK AT ME’ make me cringe just reliving those memories.
I liken the 1980’s era to my first time at a shooting range. It was loud, exciting and adrenaline pumping. But if you ask me if I would do it again, my answer would be ‘hell to the naw’ in my best Ohioan/Kentucky accent. 😂 And I’ll tell you why:
- The brightness of those prints…no wonder some of us have flashbacks that lead to momentary visual impairedness when we see extremely bedazzling colors.
- Almost every one had a pair of those army boots. Its like they all shopped in the same store. I would never know why.😕
- The dance moves though…If you know how to do the running man,… ‘You is Old’! But come to think of it looking back, people were more fit then and I’m pretty sure it was because they danced a whole lot.
- The obsession with hair for both guys AND girls was perplexing. Everyone walking around with Jerry curls and fried hair dripping with oil or really big hair back then. That’s not going to work since we have global warming now; all the hairspray in the world won’t keep that birds nest longer than a few hours.😂
- The jewelry and accessories were big, bold and screamed ‘notice me’. No one ever tells you that you get caught in everything from trees, bushes, clothes, hair…with those huge earrings 😱
Anyways guys, If you were born in the 1980’s, you know exactly what i’m talking about because you lived through that era. But if you weren’t and you think all this is new…sorry to disappoint you but it isn’t. We did the 80’s once, we don’t need to go back there again. Wishing you a happy valentines day celebration in advance! Until I come your way again, I remain
culled from 2018 New York Fashion Week
Culled from 2018 New York Fashion week.
Culled from 2018 New York Fashion Week!
Culled from 2018 New York fashion Week!
Hello Y’all!! Welcome to a fabulous new week! The freeze is still on and I’m still trying to wrap my mind around how Houston can be getting snow this time of the year and not Dallas; not that I care but it’s just odd. Can you believe it’s mid January already? The zip-line has begun…ha ha!
My neighbor has a 50 pound bulldog puppy that runs out to me every time I put my keys in the door. Today will be our 6th screaming episode…where i’m screaming in fright and the pup is super excited to say hello. 😐 This gets me E-V-E-R-Y-T-I-M-E. I still don’t understand how a dog that size can move so stealthily; I just see something out of the corner of my eye and flashbacks of ALL the horror movies of mauling sessions combined into this one moment become a reality – in my mind. This is not a one time episode though. I get jumped by dogs all the time and most recently by a clients poodle. Everyone was like ‘it absolutely loves you’ Now, I am not averse to dogs because growing up, my family always had dogs and as much as I didn’t really fuss and kiss on them (yuck), I was their primary caregiver and did right by them. So I guess its inevitable, I will probably end up with a few… eventually 😀
No More Resolutions – Just Aspirations Please.
If you’re like the rest of us, by the month of March, those resolutions are dead and forgotten; And by December, we pledge to do better the next year. Like a wheel, the cycle repeats itself. I made up my mind to switch things up and change my lingo this time around. I decided to set out with things I would love to accomplish in the year but with no definite timeline. The reason being that ‘life happens’ and ‘we don’t really have complete control over everything’. Knowing and accepting these simple facts take the pressure off of you.
- So instead of resolving to loose ‘x’ pounds or kilograms this year, I aspire to keep making healthy choices through out the year that will get me closer to the desired weight I want. So in essence, you’ve set your sights on the goal that you WILL accomplish without your brain scrambling to fit that into an almost impossible time frame.
- When I get caught in traffic with bad drivers, I will picture myself running through a peaceful field full of soft lilies and dandelions – instead of reacting by saying all those ‘bad words’…ha ha!
So guys, I hope you have an amazing week and your resolutions for the year are transformed into aspirations without any of the extra pressure we tend to place on ourselves. Feel free to share your thoughts and views with me on this post and if you haven’t already checked out my sister site, please do!! It’s:
Until I come your way again, I remain
Happy New Year Y’all!!! 😘😍 If you are reading this post, you are alive and you’re one of the fabulous and lucky ones who made it into 2018. The last couple of days leading up to the new year, I felt like I was holding my breath. In my own way, I felt I was doing my part in ensuring I made it in. I wasn’t alone in this. I noticed that traffic wasn’t as intense as it usually is. I guess no one wanted to be ‘that’ person who almost did but didn’t see the new year…LOL😂😂 Anyways, I hope you got to spend time with family, friends and just kickback and relax. I most certainly did and it’s time to get back into the flow of things again…Yay!!
A Quick Recap of 2017!
The year was hectic to say the least but equally rewarding. At different points, I felt that I was doing a balancing act and needed an extra pair of hands to handle everything on my plate…but at the same time, it was one of the most peaceful years I have ever experienced. I also learned to sit still, listen to quiet music and just enjoy short moments of peace…I don’t like to use the word ‘tranquility’ because the picture that comes to mind is of a wild bear that needs to be tasered. 😀 😀
The Birth of Periwinkle Starr-Glam Fest!!
There’s no denying it….I love clothes and have always had an eye for fashion and the fun of putting together items of clothing for different occasions. A lot of times, I’ve been stopped at random places and asked where I shopped; where I bought a particular item or just complimented on outfits, even on days where no effort was involved. And being an avid enthusiast, I’ve always been happy to oblige.
If you’re like myself and millions of other people, you’re busy and on the go almost 24/7. You (like myself) do not always have the time to shop much less scroll through a hundred items on one website only to find one or two pieces that are chic, elegant, practical or fairly decent. 😣😥
Periwinkle Starr-Glam Fest is a site that offers trendy items of clothing and accessories from different vendors that have been hand picked by a team of fashion lovers and trendsetters like myself 😁. We find the needle in the haystack so you don’t have to!! If I won’t wear it, we won’t advertise it. So take some time and check out the website below and let me know your thoughts. Your feedback is golden! We have literally hit the ground running and will keep at it for the long haul.
Until I come your way again; Be safe and relax your mind because 2018 will be awesome-tastic!!
Hello Starr readers!! The countdown has begun. I hope you’ve got a game plan for the holiday season which begins with the stress of getting everything done, figuring out a plan to see E-V-E-R-Y-O-N-E and getting in extra hours at the gym to offset all the excesses. 😀 Its been very busy lately juggling what almost looks like 10,000 things at once that it feels like I haven’t had as much real estate in my head to write a new post lately.😌
Most bloggers every now and then tend to have this ‘blank space’ where there isn’t much to write about…’just living every day life’; and I kind of understand what they meant now.
This year has been scandalous to say the least😨 – An example would be the sexual harassment/assault saga that just keeps on giving. From those who use coercion or stimulants to those who have buttons under their desk to trap their desired victims. Now I always thought those buttons were supposed to be alarms in case of danger or robbery 😒😱 …these days you never know what lengths people are willing to go to get to their desired end.
As we wind down to the end of 2017, there are a few things I have taken away from this year as a whole and I’m going to share some of them with you:
- To not be afraid of change. The people who succeed aren’t necessarily the bravest, they’re just the ones who put one foot in front of the other in spite of how they feel.
- Positive energy is essential to long term success – keep your circle of friends and close associates positive.
- When you make good things happen for others, it comes back to you. The universe never forgets. 🙂
- When going after your dreams; sometimes, riding with your blinders on is the only way to get through to the other side.
- Sometimes, its toughest before a big break; hold the line and don’t give up!
Until I come your way again which will be right before the Christmas holiday, have a wonderful time with your family, loved ones and friends. Tell me what your takeaway from the year is in the comment section below. I would love to hear your own version of 2017. I have started on my decor but still have some ways to go, here are a few pics of my tree 😀
Hello Y’all!! Its fun-day Monday and I hope your week has been off to a great start? Happy Veterans day to all those who have laid down their lives for the freedoms we enjoy today. We thank you and we will always remember your sacrifice. Have you noticed there is something festive about the holiday season this year? The spirit of Christmas is already here. 😀 Decorations are going up earlier than normal and the excitement is contagious.
Today’s topic is one that anyone can relate to; whether they have in the past or are yet to figure out in the future. I find that for some people, this comes easy. They were born and as soon as they could speak, they knew what they wanted to do. For others, it comes with first knowing what they like and figuring out if that’s the thing they ‘really’ want to do for the rest of their lives – and if it’s practicable or sustainable. Being an eccentric person myself, finding my place had to come with trying my hands at different things that I loved to do – from arts, clothing, outdoors, food e.t.c This has drawn me to different kinds of people and I have often joked that my friends cannot be friends with each other because they wouldn’t have anything in common. 😀
A Puzzling Reality
I was flying back from a work trip and was seated beside a pleasant gentleman and we got talking about literally everything from countries visited, life, family and hobbies. He worked at a job that paid him to travel all over the world. He had the lifestyle he had always dreamed about and could now afford the luxuries he did not have growing up. He was set for life. As we chatted, I asked him, ‘Do you like what you do’? And after a pause, he said ‘No’, he didn’t like what he did for a living. The money was good but deep down, he wasn’t happy. 😐 I was taken aback. There was a look in his eyes I didn’t see prior. It was as if there was a crack in the facade he had put up and for the first time I could see deep down into his soul. 😦 He could be honest with me because I was a stranger and the probability of our paths ever crossing were next to nil. But still, it was a puzzling revelation.
A colleague of mine is the most compassionate animal lover I have ever seen in my life. This is someone who stopped in the middle of a highway to rescue a stray dog so it wouldn’t be knocked down by speeding traffic. One day after she had finished telling me of her hectic weekend spent at a shelter. I jokingly asked her if she was sure she was in the right profession (architecture) and she jokingly said that many years ago she had seen a palm reader who had told her she would be a veterinarian but she scrapped that for a more prestigious field – architecture – and hates it every day but feels shes too far in to quit.
We don’t all get 120 years to waste rolling around in the hay doing things that don’t count or really fulfill us. Even if you’re stuck doing a job you loathe, find time to do what you ‘REALLY’ love because only then will you truly be at peace. When you lay down at night, you can rest easy in spite of life’s imperfections. You’re content that you’ve found your place in the world!!
Feel free to share your story on your journey to finding ‘your’ place. Until I come your way next time, take care and be safe!
Hello Y’all!! I trust your week has been off to a cool start?! We are finally in the ember months and I can tell you for a fact that it’s the most wonderful time of the year!! A big shout out to all the Starr readers all over the world who have a birthday during this time. I wish you the very best and many more amazing years ahead! Not only do I (yours truly) celebrate my birthday during this season (and I’m not being specific as to the exact month …he he) but friends and family who do as well.💑
Everything changes – the weather, the outdoors, my wardrobe – and for all the right reasons too. 😉 From this point on, the race into the new year becomes a reality. We have the craziness of Halloween then Thanksgiving, Christmas and then comes the New Year in quick succession. My goal is to be mindful and present because if I’m not careful, its all going to zip by very fast. For all my friends (myself included) who love to decorate, Fall festival was just an intro into the frenzy of the season; then comes the uphill battle to top last years efforts which is so much fun! In all honesty, the finished product is my preference. 😎
The Up Side!!!
- You can finally (like me) blast Christmas carols as loud as you want.
- All diets are off! – All those treats are not going to eat themselves. 😋 Besides, when you’ve been diligent at keeping up your gym routine for 10 months out of the year, you deserve some slack time.
- Spending time with close family and friends.
- Decorations! Decorations! Decorations! – The family that decorates together, celebrates together! 👪
- We get to layer up. I’ve been waiting for this cool down for a long time.
- Parties and Festivities galore!
- Hallmark has a marathon of all those sappy Christmas specials which are awesome!
The year 2017 has indeed been an eventful one. Its had it’s highs and lows and for some, this time can be a really difficult period to live through. Maybe you didn’t do as well as you hoped and things didn’t turn out like you planned. The good news is: The year isn’t over yet! So put aside any disappointments and just be plain old happy!! You are alive. You can still dream! Dig your heels in and make up your mind to plan ahead and do better next year!
Happy Halloween to you all!! Until I come your way again, I remain