Just Ask!…You Might Be Surprised.


Hello All! I hope your Monday has been off to a great start? I got to meet up with a few friends that I haven’t seen in a long time but somehow we always seem to continue right where we left off and I absolutely love it! Whats unique about this group is the fact that we all work in different fields, have different backgrounds but we always have a blast E-V-E-R-Y-T-I-M-E ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚ After catching up, one of the guys starts talking about his current situation – You know it starts to get deep after a few cocktails (those annoyingly tiny glasses that contain all the calories you require in a day :/ I am making a note to self to schedule an extra 20 minutes at the gym) ha ha!


Matt (not his real name) keeps seeing a girl he’s come to be intrigued by at his favorite spot during lunch hour on a regular basis. Now Matt is very particular and isn’t one to compliment ladies that easily so when he says ‘a lady is pretty’, trust me – you can take that to the bank! Anyways, he’s seen her a couple of times but hasn’t really summed up the courage to speak to her. She’s always on the takeout line, never eats in. He said ‘he thought’ she was single because she didn’t wear any rings. She was always well dressed and sometimes made small talk with the cashier. He ‘felt’ she came across as snobby, snooty or proud. He saw her come in on one occasion with a guy. He said they ‘seemed’ pretty close, friendly and talked a lot so he ‘assumed’ the guy might be her boyfriend. At this point in the conversation, it almost sounded like Matt had begun to dislike this girl he hadn’t technically met but was even more intrigued by. He had also built up an entirely new persona of this girl based on his ‘perceptions’ or ‘pointers’ (don’t even know how on earth he measures those yet) and wanted my take and the views of some of the ladies in our group on the issue.

Now, I like to sometimes consider myself to be a holistic individual – not making hasty conclusions or decisions based on lopsided or one sided information. I love to mentally remove myself from a situation and look at it from an outsiders perspective, then put myself in each parties shoes before I make ‘assumptions’ and even then I can’t be 100 percent accurate because I (quite frankly) do not reside in anyone else’s brain besides my own. I feel we (myself included) as people have become lazy in the sense that we are so quick to sum people up, situations and or events based off of a few pointers (we A-L-L have those) – because it saves us the time and discomfort of actually doing the work.

At the end of dinner, we (guys and gals) all agreed that Matt needed to go back to the restaurant and the next time he saw the mystery girl – He should take a deep breath, walk up to her, introduce himself and A-S-K her if she wanted to eat in and maybe get to know her a little bit more – instead of whining to us for half the night (love you Matt!! ha ha) because the bottom line is: In life, you can never quite tell and if you sum up the courage to ask, you might be surprised at what you just might learn!

Feel free to let me know your thoughts and experiences on things you had assumptions or perceptions about ย that turned out to be directly opposite to what you imagined. Until I come your way again, ciao for now!!

Periwinkle Starr


Swamped Wednesday?…Lets Bake!


Hello Y’all! Hope you’ve had a great week so far. The Superbowl has finally come and gone. Looking down at my hands, I’m surprised I still have my fingernails after the anxiety brought on by Sunday nights game; which is one of the reasons I hate watching finals of A-N-Y competitive sport.. ย ๐Ÿ˜€ It could be anything from the FIFA world cup finals to two seals fighting over a grape and it’ll get me in knots! Anyways, it was an amazing game nonetheless and I had a fun time watching it.

Over the weekend, my sisters went on a baking spree and all I got were pictures sent to my phone which is sad when you think about how Star Trek lied to me all my life about being able to ‘energize’ – ย a terminology where they were able to transport matter from one fixed location to another – in my case, a huge slice of homemade key lime pie and angel food cake right unto my coffee table in Dallas :/ ๐Ÿ˜ฆ So I decided to forget my deadlines for a few hours, whip out my cookbook from one of my all time favorite shows -‘ The Great British Bake Off’ and make a treat of my own! A very well deserved treat if I must say.

Digestives Biscuit

2/3 cup plain wholemeal flour

2/3 cup medium oatmeal

1 tablespoon bran

1/4 teaspoon crushed sea salt

1 teaspoon baking powder

1/3 cup brown sugar

1 1/4 sticks or 10 tablespoons of butter

1-2 tablespoons milk


1. Pour flour, oatmeal, bran, salt, baking powder and sugar into bowl of mixer. Pulse until thoroughly combined.

2. Add butter and continue mixing. Add milk and bring mixture to a firm dough.

3. Remove dough, flatten into thick disc and wrap in clingfilm. Chill for 30 minutes.

4. Set disc of dough between 2 sheets of clingfilm or baking paper and roll out 4mm thick. Using a cookie cutter (in my case one of my Christmas mugs – sorry Santa!), stamp out rounds and set slightly apart on greased baking sheets. Use trimmings, work together and re-roll and cut out more rounds

5. Prick each round several times with fork, then chill in fridge for about 10 minutes. Meanwhile heat your oven to 190C or 375F

6. Bake the biscuits for 10-12 minutes until golden and slightly darker around the edges. Remove and leave to cool for 5 minutes then transfer to a wire wrack. When cold store in an air tight container for about a week.

This recipe is super easy and you don’t need to be a pro to make it. I hope you enjoy! Until I come your way again, be safe and have fun!! Here are some pictures for y’all.

Periwinkle Starr