Looking Back And Moving Forward

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Hello Y’all!! Happy New Month! I hope you are doing well in your part of the world? Its been pleasant so far and I’m waiting on more consistent weather to set out on new adventures for 2019. It just dawned on me that the last adrenaline adventure I was on was when I went kayaking on Lake Grapevine, so me and some friends are getting warmed up for that…hopefully the weather in north Texas cooperates.

I love quiet moments every now and then because I get to relax and ponder on a lot of things – which involve amazing everyday experiences, stressful situations or not so pretty moments; and yes, we ALL have experienced these situations at some point in our lives or the other.  With growing up, it’s very easy to look at life through a lens of items to be accomplished that sometimes we can get too busy and never take time off to process the journey so far. This is no ones fault by any long shot…I’ll blame it on technology and having a million and two things vying for my attention 24/7.

Sometimes its good to take time just to process your journey through life and how far you’ve come, how much you’ve grown, what you’ve learned and how you can do better.  I was hanging out with a bunch of friends a few days ago, and Jordan (not his real name) told us that every year on his birthday, he goes on an adventure to a different location. His goal is to find a place that is peaceful and quiet where he can relax, unwind and think clearly on what he’s accomplished the past year and what he wants to do for the coming year.

Wow! I found it interesting – coming from a guy because us ladies tend to do that more often than just once a year especially when you get those hormonal dips and spikes in continuous tandem…ha ha. No matter your ethnicity, whether you’re rich or poor, or where you were raised, there is something that happens to us all, and it’s called LIFE!  Often times, it’s so easy to forget how far we’ve come and the things we endured or worked hard to achieve in order to get to where we are now. We can very easily begrudge ourselves any kudos because of the goals we have not yet attained instead of looking at how far we have come and just being plain-ole thankful.

Reminiscing On The Past…

♣   Makes me thankful…I’m still here if not anything else.

♣  To be a bit more empathetic to the people I meet in every day life.

♣  To learn to be firm – you know what works and what doesn’t.

♣  Learning to dig my heels in when facing tough situations.

♣   Learning to sharpen my instinct and trust my gut.

♣   I’ve learned to pick my battles.

♣  I can laugh heartily at myself!

♣   Wisdom! There’s just something about someone whose been there and done that.

♣  Finding a way to process and make peace with all and any…

I read something that had a profound impact on me the other day, it said “Unharmed prosperity cannot endure a single blow” says Seneca, but a man/woman who has gone through countless misfortunes “acquires a skin calloused by suffering”. This man fights to the ground and carries on the fight even on his knees. He will never give up!

I hope you feel pumped, encouraged and fired up after reading this post but better still, I hope you take time for yourself to look back at how amazing your journey has been and how you want to move forward – in the best direction possible! Do like, comment and follow this blog for more posts from…

 

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Healthy Tweaks For A Lifestyle On The Go!!

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Hello Y’all! Happy belated Valentines Day! I trust you’re doing well in your part of the world and you took time to celebrate and just have fun. Its been a minute since my last post and I have been on the go non-stop. Trying to be healthy, stay in shape and still perform in peak condition is not as easy as i thought. Most of the time, my diet bears the brunt of my schedule and when you’re more of a night owl, that in many ways make it even more difficult to be all bright and sunny in the morning to do anything other than get ready that most people just give up and go with whatever the flow is.

Breakfast before heading out in the morning has never being my forte but I noticed that I often find myself rummaging through the office pantry for snacks mid-morning which I know are either full of empty calories or loaded with salt. I finally had a ‘Come to Jesus’ moment where I decided to try something different.  I am not one of those people who take drastic actions like shave their hair, quit eating or move to some monastery in order to change their lives; I believe in making small changes, small tweaks which I believe are more sustainable and kinder to my body without shocking it. So I decided to start a meal prep regimen consisting of healthier options and lower calories coupled with a 30 minute exercise routine every other day of the week. I went online, looked up YouTube Videos, Health and Fitness Blogs.

My Findings!

♦   Breakfast Options – Overnight Oats: I found a couple of recipes that are super easy and take you 10 minutes or less to prepare the night before which guarantee you a healthy breakfast full of fiber, antioxidants and fat burning carbs. This has been so good at keeping my mid-morning cravings at bay and increasing my focus significantly. My favorite overnight oats recipe is my Kiwi and Blueberry Recipe that I will share down below so stay with me.

♦   Meal Prepping My Lunch The Night Before: Depending on what I intend making, it takes about an hour or less to prepare my food, veggies and snacks for my lunch the next day. Making my own meals isn’t just cost effective but I know what’s actually in my food. There’s so many hidden calories in restaurant food that eating out on a daily basis without an active lifestyle is not going to work long term. When done, refrigerate it and all I need to do is grab and go in the morning!!

♦    Putting Exercise Back On My Weekly To-Do List: I unearthed my Insanity Workout videos and started working out at home again especially when I have the weather as an excuse to not go to the gym, I could still workout within the confines of my home.

♦   Accountability Buddies: I have friends who are either in the same boat or have it all figured out. Everyone needs accountability buddies because they help me stay on track and call me out when I start to slack off.

Kiwi and Blueberry – Overnight Oats

Ingredients: 1 tbsp Chia seeds, 1 tsp Vanilla extract, 1/2 Cup of Greek yogurt, 1 tbsp shredded coconut, 1/2 Cup of milk, 1/2 Cup of oats, 1 tbsp maple syrup, 1 Kiwi, 1/2 Cup of blueberries.

 

 

So guys and ladies, let me know what you’ve done to stay healthy on the go. Making these seemingly minor tweaks to my lifestyle have done a lot with everything from loosing a few extra pounds to being more alert and focused.  Until I come your way again, stay safe, beautiful and healthy. I remain

 

Periwinkle Starr

Time Awaits No One.

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Hello Y’all! I hope you are doing well in your part of the world? Its that time in the year that we get to layer on and feel like we belong with our mid-western cousins who are duking it out in the snow.  Speaking of snow, it snowed this past weekend in Dallas but it melted before we could see it talk less of getting a few snapshots of it. :/ Growing up, there were a lot of proverbs I learned in primary school. One of them is ‘a stitch in time saves nine’. It was something always quoted by my teachers at school and all my childhood mind could decipher as to it’s meaning was to get my homework done on time so I don’t get disciplined.

My Definition of Time

I love to look at time in a different light than just the two hands of a clock or a number on a calendar. To me, ‘Time is a silent witness that stays with us all of our days on this planet’. We think we have it in abundance until we wake up one day and find out that we have little of it left. We can embrace it for what it is or we can be trapped in it. I do not consider it to be a fair donor in the sense that every one of us is allocated a different portion of it all through our lives.

Being an avid listener, I am used to hearing people I speak with tell the same story multiple times. These stories are almost imprinted in my memory that I can mimic the dates and facial expressions when they start with, ‘In 1964, it was a cold Sunday…’. I see the way the eyes light up in animation and how they stare wistfully into space as they re-live the moment. They’re bodily present but absent in the mind. Its almost like pieces of their lives are trapped in moments of time where even their sense of smell is rekindled. Some get a taste on their lips just by reliving old memories of eating certain meals – that my friends, is the power of the human mind.

The Downside

Just the same way we remember pleasant events, we can also be trapped in unpleasant or distasteful events. A lot of times, we can get stuck in events – some of our doing and others we have no control over. The sad part is that sometimes we aren’t even aware that we’re stuck, we’re trapped in certain events without realizing that the world has moved on all around us. I was watching an episode of Ghost Adventures, this time they were investigating an orphanage that was closed down due to the abuse and mistreatment of the children during that time. One of the kids, who was now an old man was brought in and he talked about how he was beaten by the warden for no apparent reason on many occasions. In my opinion, he was a grown man but in his mind he was still a small boy trapped in that orphanage.

It Doesn’t Have To Be This Way

The truth is this: Time waits for no one and YOU/I are not going to waste another second of another day trapped in a situation or frozen in time from an event that no longer matters. Here’s how to be unstuck!

♥Acknowledge the event for what it is – good or bad.

♥Think deeply about it.

♥Make Peace With It

♥Force yourself to grow beyond the situation.

♥Get up. Get back into the game of life and LIVE!!

So until I come your way next time, like, comment and follow my blog. I remain,

 

 

Periwinkle Starr♥

 

 

 

Happy New 2019!!

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Happy New Year!!! Its 2019 y’all! Welcome to a new and better version of you. I am so glad to be back from the break. It was really refreshing to get away and spend time with family and loved ones especially during the holidays. I am back, recharged and pumped to hit the ground running this new year. I really don’t like making resolutions because I feel like by the end of the first quarter, they’re pretty much forgotten or relegated to the background. This year I am going to try to do a few things better but I am a little hesitant to call these tweaks to my daily life – resolutions. I feel like when I make something a resolution, it’s automatically meant to be broken. Its like placing something on a pedestal knowing fully well that it’s not going to live up to your expectations but you do so anyway. :/ Anyways…here it goes.

My New Year Resolutions….#Resolve

♥  Getting My ‘Beach Body’ Back!

Its a no brainier that I ate my way through the holidays. The food was so good and the sweets were worth every calorie…ha ha! But it’s time to get back to being fit. It’s time to snatch it all in again. Being a natural born sweet tooth, finding ways to get that craving met is a constant juggle. When I feel I’m leaning towards too many artificially sweet treats, I switch to naturally sweet items. Having a mid morning or mid afternoon treat is a necessity especially when I’m on the go. But in 2019, I intend to be more active this year and I plan on being active at least a minimum of thirty minutes E-V-E-R-Y-D-A-Y. Now this might be stretching it a little but my best bet is to aim high so when I fall…I’m not too far off.

♥  Better Time Management

In my opinion, time management is like a stacked deck of cards where one wrong move causes a downward spiral or domino effect across the board. I feel we can all do a bit or a whole lot better when it comes to time management and that’s something I intend improving on in 2019.

♥  More Meal Prepping And Eating Out Less.

I haven’t always been a fan of meal prepping because it takes the surprise out of meals in the sense that you know what you’re eating whether you feel like it or not. But from what I’v read, meal prepping is great because you can track your calories, save money and not have to make wrong choices when you’re super hungry…Being prepared by planning ahead helps nip those ‘carb induced’ cravings in the bud and keep your waistline from ballooning out of control. Don’t ask me how I know…LOL!

♥  Get Enough Sleep.

If your a jet-setter, always on the go type of person, getting a good nights sleep regularly will help offset the stress of everyday living. I intend being in bed at least 2 hours earlier than my usual. Sleep refreshes the body and slows down the aging process. All the serums in the world cannot heal a battered and used body.

♥  Stay Hydrated On The Good Stuff!

I have found some pretty good healthy smoothies online that I have incorporated into my meals and I feel a whole lot better for it. If you can’t eat your veggies, drink them!

♥  Be Health Conscious. 

Stay up to date on all health related appointments. Be sensitive to your body and know when things feel right and when they don’t. Your life depends on it.

♥  Make Room for More Adventures in 2019!

This involves getting out of my own way…a bit more often. Need I say more 😀

So guys and ladies, 2019 will be whatever you want it to be. But I hope its a great year for you and I. I wish you an amazing run filled with positivity, good vibes and growth. We did it last year, lets go big this year and make it happen! Have a fun week! Until I come your way again, like, comment and subscribe. I remain,

 

Periwinkle Starr😘

 

 

A Perfect Christmas!

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Hello Y’all!! Its been a minute since my last post. Hope you are doing great in your part of the world? It’s the season to be merry and the countdown to Christmas has begun. Traffic has been a bear over the past couple of days without any respite. But in some weird way…I am not complaining. 😘😎 The activities are endless with everything from parties, plays, secret Santa’s and shopping…lots of it. We get to spend quality time with family and close friends but for some its just another holiday they hope to get through and quickly.

It’s been a very eventful and busy year. The year has had its up and ups and some lows in between as any year would bring. The key is not to loose sight of the highs because it’s oftentimes the norm for us to focus on the lows. One of my mantras for 2018 was to live with no regrets. To go to sleep each day knowing that I did good in the world and if I didn’t solve any problems at least I didn’t start any. To have healthy boundaries and to be mindful of my energy and state of mind at any given time.

A Perfect Christmas?

Is there any such thing as a perfect Christmas? In my opinion, Christmas quite frankly is what you make of it. Whether you are married or single, have family or no family. Whether you have a bunch of friends, or you have no friends. Whether you have multiple pets or no pets at all. There isn’t any such thing as a perfect Christmas. Some common sayings I hear a lot are ‘you get to pick your friends but you don’t pick your family’. How about ‘life’s a b***h and then you die’. 😒😱It can go downhill really fast and it doesn’t do you any good. One of my mantras for 2018 was to live with no regrets.

It Doesn’t Have To Be This Way

Holidays can be tough for some, especially when there are unresolved family matters or strained relationships. It could be very superficial for others, where the primary focus is on having everything perfect and denying the real underlying issues or choosing not to speak of them. But Christmas can be fun for others. It can be messy, un-perfect but still filled with love and happiness. Life is way too short to waste on things that don’t matter.

Admitting where you are in life. Being honest – no matter what that means to you – allows the universe help you. When you are open to receiving help, you will find a way.

Kick down those walls. To have genuine relationships, you need to be a genuine person that people can relate to. This is a ‘duh statement’ but oh so true. Don’t you wonder about those people who have a zillion social media friends but no true human connections or people to reach out to when they feel really low.

Don’t be afraid to reach out. Some where along the path of life, we picked up this ‘I don’t need nobody’ mentality. You have to retrain your brain. You are a human being. You need other humans 😀 Yes, you might have chosen bad humans in the past or unknowingly fell into the wrong hands but there are a million good ones out there. You only need to be more discerning the next time.

Talk about it. One of my favorite sayings is ‘ a problem shared with a trusted friend is half-solved!

Make it good this year. Call that old friend or family member. Go out and help make Christmas happen for someone less fortunate than yourself. Send presents to that old aunt of yours. Instead of waiting for great things to happen to you, get up, go out and make it happen for yourself!

May your Christmas be filled with the friendly chatter of family, until I come your way again and I promise you that it would be sooner. I remain

Periwinkle Starr😘

P.S. I had my tree up a little early and had to share. 😀

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Winding Down into Fall!!!

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Hello Y’all. It is Fall!!! The sweltering heat is slowly winding down and will soon be gone… even if its just for a few months. We are getting close to the end of the year and like every time, its like 2018 just zip-lined its way into the last quarter. Its about that time to put away my Summer clothes and set up my closet for Fall. We are officially in the last lap of the year. I feel its not too early to sit back, take a moment and look back at how well we’ve lived during the year. If you’ve been with my blog over the past two years, you’d notice that I’m all about improvements, taking stock, learning from my past in order to do better in the future.

Here are some of my lessons learned so far in 2018!!

  • Keep Being Active: I remember meeting up with a buddy of mine one day and showing up to the trail with a bag of Cheetos – don’t judge me 😀 But I was hungry and didn’t have time to eat but I showed up either way.  Being active is a lifestyle and we may never be perfect but choose to show up anyway.
  • Eat Healthy: The holiday season is around the corner and that downward sugar spiral is closer than you think. I’m making up my mind to make up for all the parties, events, binges and splurges by eating healthier in between ALL the festivities so I can cancel out my excesses.
  • Trust Your Gut: The older I get, the more I have learned to trust myself, to trust my gut feeling, my intuition in every area of my life and to not just shake it off if I feel some kind of way about something.
  • Balance The Books: This is a whole other blog post on it’s own if I need to elaborate on it but I’m just going to skim over to give you an idea of what i’m talking about. When I say ‘balance the books’,  I’m looking at everything from relationships, finances, health, spirituality etc. and I am looking at how I have lived, my choices, my sacrifices, what I’ve put in and what I’ve gotten back in return. I look at areas I could have done better and at areas I feel I need to improve on or make better choices. The bottom line is I know where I’m at and I’m not just waltzing through life without been accountable to myself, my time and to those around me.
  • Read More Books: I try to catch up on my reading every now and then. Even though I have a few more books to read before the end of the year, I’m on it and doing the best I can every chance that I get. 😀
  • Try A New Sport: Whether it’s golfing, volleyball on the weekends or meditation. I  personally don’t know ANYONE who is physically overactive but I feel most of us if not all of us could do better with a little bit more exercise.

 

  • Start Juicing: I remember being younger and my parents bought this ‘Juice Processor’ (that was what it was called back in the day) and at the time, I felt it was more of a hassle than a necessity. Now I’ve realized that with being on the go most of the time, juicing is an easier alternative to eating an actual meal but with the same or even more nutritional benefits.

We just had New York Fashion Week for 2018 and it was fun! There was a  showdown between Rihannas ‘Savage x Fenty’ line and Marc Jacobs presentation. I felt both shows were very unique in their own way. But as always, there’s the tendency to pit two very talented and gifted individuals against each other – even though they stem from different ends of the spectrum.  :/  Anyways, I saved some pictures from the Marc Jacobs clothing line that I found interesting and had to share with you.

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Always remember that its never too late to tweak your lifestyle. Until I come your way again, I remain

 

Periwinkle Starr

A Do-Nothing Weekend…At last!!

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Hello Y’all! I hope your weekend has been nothing short of amazing. Can you believe we are already in the Ember months? It is SEPTEMBER!! …and Labor Day is a few hours away. I love to call it the start of the Holiday marathon because we just keep rolling from one to the other until the end of the year.

This blog title is so cliché because I feel like a do-nothing weekend is just not doable – but a ‘do-nothing stress inducing’ weekend absolutely is. Forgetting about deadlines, alarms and traffic is such a sweet spot to be in, even if it’s only for a few days. I have more time to spread out my activities as opposed to racing to get everything I need done in a 48 hour time crunch…ha ha! So here I am in my living room with my hair marinating in a blend of  natural and essential oils, nails done, face in a mask and writing this post with a sappy Hallmark movie playing in the background. I would say that I’m very intentional about doing nothing stress related for the next couple of days…ha ha.

Tips for a Fun Holiday Weekend!!

Snooze galore. Need I say more!

Pamper yourself – Get a facial, a massage, paint your nails, give yourself a mani pedi because you absolutely deserve it.

Catch up with family and friends.

Take your vitamins. I know this is funny but most people are always on the go during the week that they don’t stop to take ANY vitamins. This might seem trivial but since we get one body per lifetime, its best to keep it nourished and balanced – vitamin supplements help with that.

Socialize and have fun! – Pool parties, parks, picnics, barbecues. I know nothing about grilling but I love volunteering to be a taste tester. There are endless activities going on all over the DFW Metroplex so there’s no reason to stay home .

Drink red wine – your heart will thank you for it!

Exercise – swim, go for walks, zumba, hit the gym.

Take time to be quiet, calm and relaxed. For some this would entail things like meditation, listening to a good sermon, acupressure or acupuncture; do what works best for your body type.

Get refreshed!…I do realize that three days is a short period of time to de-stress but it is better than no time. Besides you will feel recharged and in tip top shape to hit the ground running again!

Happy Labor Day in advance!! Feel free to like, follow and share your fun tips for a do-nothing weekend!! So until I come your way again, its going to be lots of rest, fun, friends and food. Be safe and hope you have a fabulous time!!

 

Periwinkle Starr